{"id":1733,"date":"2011-02-17T09:07:57","date_gmt":"2011-02-17T13:07:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.bu.edu\/ombs\/?p=1733"},"modified":"2013-03-13T12:17:02","modified_gmt":"2013-03-13T16:17:02","slug":"black-swans-and-tiger-moms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/ombs\/2011\/02\/17\/black-swans-and-tiger-moms\/","title":{"rendered":"Black Swans and Tiger Moms"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a class=\"addthis_button\" href=\"http:\/\/www.addthis.com\/bookmark.php?v=250&amp;username=xa-4bb6bcc8320e5dd9\"><img loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/s7.addthis.com\/static\/btn\/v2\/lg-share-en.gif\" alt=\"Bookmark and Share\" width=\"125\" height=\"16\" \/><\/a><script src=\"http:\/\/s7.addthis.com\/js\/250\/addthis_widget.js#username=xa-4bb6bcc8320e5dd9\" type=\"text\/javascript\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-1742\" src=\"https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/ombs\/files\/2011\/02\/black_swan_freemovietag-202x300.jpg\" alt=\"black_swan_freemovietag\" width=\"202\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/ombs\/files\/2011\/02\/black_swan_freemovietag-202x300.jpg 202w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/ombs\/files\/2011\/02\/black_swan_freemovietag.jpeg 510w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 202px) 100vw, 202px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><!-- p.p1 {margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Cambria} p.p2 {margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Cambria; min-height: 14.0px} span.s1 {letter-spacing: 0.0px} span.s2 {text-decoration: underline ; letter-spacing: 0.0px color: #000099} span.Apple-tab-span {white-space:pre} --><\/p>\n<p><span> <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span><span> <\/span>I am surprising myself this week by delving into the more psychological and less biological side of neuroscience. Upon seeing the haunting <em>Black Swan<\/em> over winter break, I was immediately intrigued by its psychological underpinnings. Not long afterward, a friend showed me a fitting article from the Wall Street Journal titled, \u201cWhy Chinese Mothers are Superior\u201d by Amy Chua. As it turns out, Chua\u2019s article is an excerpt from her highly controversial book on parenting, <em>Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother<\/em>. In her book, she describes to the Western public her use of persistence, force, and even verbal attack to get her children to be their best. Although shocked at some of the details, I found some of Chua\u2019s arguments compelling. But how far is too far? Can we be driven insane by a desire to achieve, like the unfortunate protagonist in <em>Black Swan? <\/em>Or do the hours at the piano and the endless repetition of multiplication facts pay off in the end? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span><span> <\/span>Nina, played by Natalie Portman, is the main character of <em>Black Swan, <\/em>a ballet dancer whose life seems to revolve around two places: the dance studio and the apartment she shares with her overbearing mother. The mother, we learn, was a dancer when she was younger and is channeling her unfulfilled ambitions into Nina, who she desperately wants to see take the lead in Swan Lake. Roger Ebert describes this tiger mom in his review of <em>Black Swan <\/em>as \u201ca mother whose love is real, whose shortcomings are not signaled, whose perfectionism has all been focused on the creation of her daughter.&#8221; The daughter becomes so focused on perfecting her art, trying to please her mother and her ballet company director that the rest of her life unravels along with her concept of reality itself. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span><span> <\/span><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-1743\" src=\"https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/ombs\/files\/2011\/02\/tiger-mom-and-cub-300x218.jpg\" alt=\"tiger-mom-and-cub\" width=\"300\" height=\"218\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/ombs\/files\/2011\/02\/tiger-mom-and-cub-300x218.jpg 300w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/ombs\/files\/2011\/02\/tiger-mom-and-cub.jpeg 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Of course, for the number of hard-driving parents out there, I\u2019m sure there are significantly fewer Ninas: people driven to insanity by their need for perfection. Still, <em>Black Swan<\/em> makes viewers cringe at the thought of putting someone through such a rigorous practice regimen and limited schedule as hers. In the same vein, Amy Chua\u2019s book has received much backlash, as exhibited on the <em>Today<\/em> <em>Show<\/em> where the host read viewer comments on Chua\u2019s approach deeming it \u201coutrageous\u201d and calling Chua \u201ca monster.&#8221; Her daughters were not allowed to have sleepovers, participate in school plays, earn any grade less than an A, watch television, and the list goes on. In addition, she relates a story about her daughter Louisa\u2019s struggles to learn a piano piece and the tactics she used to get Louisa to succeed. Chua forbade her daughter to leave the piano even for bathroom and water breaks, threatened her, told her to be less \u201clazy, cowardly, self-indulgent and pathetic\u201d &#8211; terms she considers motivational. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span><span> <\/span>In contrast, studies have shown that such verbal aggression is detrimental not only to kids\u2019 self-esteem, but to their school grades. One such study, published in <em>Child Abuse &amp; Neglect <\/em>showed that kids with verbally aggressive parents showed poorer marks in French, their native language, especially those students who perceived themselves as verbally abused. The authors pointed out that children who are the victims of such aggression tend to doubt their scholastic ability, their behavior and their general worth. Another more recent study in <em>NeuroImage<\/em> showed a 14.1% increase in gray matter volume in the superior temporal gyrus in subjects who were exposed to parental verbal aggression. Statements like these are compelling &#8211; but the first study failed to show any decline in math skills due to verbal abuse, and the sample size was quite small in the correlational second study.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span><span> <\/span>As horrifying as Chua\u2019s method sounds, when Louisa finally mastered the piece, she didn\u2019t want to leave the piano and was back on excellent terms with her mother that same night. Oddly, it was an exercise in self-esteem: Chua didn\u2019t want her daughter to give up; she wanted her to understand what it\u2019s like to succeed when you didn\u2019t think you could. In essence, she was berating her daughter to build her confidence because she believed in Louisa\u2019s ability to overcome laziness and fear. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>It is a fact of cognitive neuroscience that practice does make perfect (see <a href=\"https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/ombs\/2010\/07\/21\/piano-teachers-must-be-neuroscientists\/\">Piano Teachers Must Be Neuroscientists<\/a>). In the <em>Time <\/em>article reviewing Amy Chua\u2019s book, psychology professor Daniel Willingham agrees. He says that once you\u2019ve mastered a physical task like a piano piece, you can perform it without thinking about it, leaving certain areas of your brain free to engage in more complex interpretation of the music you\u2019re playing. Rather than being stifled by verbal aggression, perhaps Chua\u2019s children now have an extra outlet for expression. They may not be perceiving themselves as verbally abused either &#8211; it seems that Chua is somehow letting her kids know that she believes in their potential.<\/p>\n<p><span><span> <\/span>With such talent to express themselves with, how could a kid end up like Nina the\u00a0 Crazy Ballerina? My guess is that driving children to succeed is not the issue: it\u2019s instilling a fear of failure, a fear of accomplishing nothing, a fear that Chua pushed her daughters to overcome. In another article in <em>Time <\/em>article detailing the extent to which parents go to protect their young from everything, Nancy Gibbs writes, \u201cwe were so obsessed with our kids\u2019 success that parenting turned into a form of product development,\u201d as she discusses the overload on extracurriculars and safety devices that parents pile on to make sure their kids survive in this competitive day and age. In the article, Gibbs cites author Carl Honore, who says, \u201cWith children, they need that space not to be entertained or distracted. What boredom does is take away the noise&#8230; and leave them with space to think deeply, invent their own game, create their own distraction. It\u2019s a useful trampoline for children to learn how to get by.\u201d Regardless of whether or not kids can play the piano like Mozart, they tend to find a suitable creative outlet if given time. Do kids who have practiced assigned violin exercises for hours on end have time to reflect on what they are putting into their music on a more emotional level? If they\u2019ve never had the opportunity to create as they please, as adults these people may not know how to cope with a lack of stimulation. Maybe this was the Black Swan\u2019s problem: when presented with a role in Swan Lake that required her to branch off from her drilled-in technical ballet skills and become her character, Nina was afraid of the freedom and the possibility of failure. In my experience growing up with non-Tiger Parents (yet supplemented with Tiger Piano Teacher), it seems to me that a blend of discipline and hard work, along with time to just have fun and be a kid is the best formula for success.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><!-- p.p1 {margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica; color: #000099} span.s1 {text-decoration: underline ; letter-spacing: 0.0px} span.s2 {letter-spacing: 0.0px color: #000000} --><a href=\"http:\/\/rogerebert.suntimes.com\/apps\/pbcs.dll\/article?AID=\/20101201\/REVIEWS\/101209994\/1001\">Black Swan Movie Review<\/a> &#8211; Roger Ebert<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.time.com\/time\/nation\/article\/0,8599,2043313-5,00.html\">Tiger Moms: Is Tough Parenting Really the Answer?<\/a> &#8211; \u00a0Time Magazine<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/online.wsj.com\/article\/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html\">Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior<\/a> &#8211; The Wall Street Journal<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com.ezproxy.bu.edu\/science?_ob=MImg&amp;_imagekey=B6V7N-3W19G2G-3-9&amp;_cdi=5847&amp;_user=489277&amp;_pii=S014521349900006X&amp;_origin=browse&amp;_zone=rslt_list_item&amp;_coverDate=04\/30\/1999&amp;_sk=999769995&amp;wchp=dGLbVlW-zSkzk&amp;md5=f97eef6f0fe6c744fc2609e6baea6efb&amp;ie=\/sdarticle.pdf\">Effects of parental verbal aggression on children&#8217;s self-esteem and school marks<\/a> &#8211; Child Abuse &amp; Neglect<\/p>\n<p><!-- p.p1 {margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; font: 12.0px Helvetica} span.s1 {letter-spacing: 0.0px} --><a href=\"Exposure to parental verbal abuse is associated with increased gray matter volume in superior temporal gyrus\">Exposure to Parental Verbal Aggression and Gray Matter Volume<\/a> &#8211; NeuroImage<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.time.com\/time\/nation\/article\/0,8599,1940395,00.html\">Helicopter Parents<\/a> &#8211; Time Magazine<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Under-Pressure-Rescuing-Children-Hyper-Parenting\/dp\/0061128805\">Under Pressure: Rescuing Our Children from the Culture of Hyper-Parenting<\/a> &#8211; Carl Honore<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I am surprising myself this week by delving into the more psychological and less biological side of neuroscience. 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