{"id":453,"date":"2023-04-14T15:07:11","date_gmt":"2023-04-14T19:07:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/?post_type=bulb-learning-module&#038;p=453"},"modified":"2023-11-20T10:08:27","modified_gmt":"2023-11-20T15:08:27","slug":"negotiating-partnership-options","status":"publish","type":"bulb-learning-module","link":"https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/lessons\/identifying-resolving-conflict\/negotiating-partnership-options\/","title":{"rendered":"Emphasizing Partnership Commonalities"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Finding and elevating areas of common ground enhances the working relationship, builds trust, and often renews energy to work together (Farkas, et. al, 2016). <strong>Mutuality is a guiding principle for partnering.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-audio\"><audio controls src=\"\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/06\/Emphasizing.m4a\"><\/audio><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"683\" src=\"\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/04\/christina-wocintechchat-com-jzonFmreWok-unsplash-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"family members seated at a table in conversation partnering\" class=\"wp-image-647\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/04\/christina-wocintechchat-com-jzonFmreWok-unsplash-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/04\/christina-wocintechchat-com-jzonFmreWok-unsplash-636x424.jpg 636w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/04\/christina-wocintechchat-com-jzonFmreWok-unsplash-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/04\/christina-wocintechchat-com-jzonFmreWok-unsplash-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/04\/christina-wocintechchat-com-jzonFmreWok-unsplash-2048x1365.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2><strong><strong><span class=\"has-inline-color has-very-dark-gray-color\">Focusing On Commonalities<\/span><\/strong><\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>When you emphasize what you, the individual, and their family share, you are spotlighting the path forward. <strong>Five (5) areas of commonalities are:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol><li><strong>Behavioral health goals<\/strong>: desired outcomes &nbsp;<ul><li><em>&#8220;Courtney, we&#8217;re all aligned on your goals of securing part-time work and living on your own.&#8221;<\/em><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><strong>Behavioral health process<\/strong>: actions to achieve outcomes<ul><li><em>&#8220;We all understand and support you, Courtney, in your choice to continue with medication tapering.&#8221;<\/em><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><strong>Roles<\/strong>: participation in the partnership<ul><li><em>&#8220;Courtney, it seems helpful to you and your family to be together and collectively explore your options for moving.&#8221;<\/em><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><strong>Responsibilities<\/strong>: functions in the partnership<ul><li><em>&#8220;It seems like we all understand and agree on what we&#8217;ll individually do before the next meeting to support you, Courtney, in making progress toward your goals.&#8221;<\/em><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li><strong>Experience<\/strong>: personal beliefs, values, and feelings<ul><li><em>&#8220;Courtney, we all believe &#8211; and you do too &#8211; that recovery is possible, and your goals are achievable.&#8221;<\/em><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:34px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2><span class=\"has-inline-color has-very-dark-gray-color\">Practice Pause: Identifying Commonalities <\/span> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Consider the exchange below between Marco (individual receiving support), Lupe (Marco&#8217;s family member), and Dr. Hidalgo (behavioral health provider) who are not currently aligned on Marco&#8217;s work-related goals. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\"><div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container\">\n<p><em><strong><strong><em>Lupe (family member):<\/em><\/strong><\/strong><em> I understand, Marco, you want to go to that vocational rehab program. I&#8217;m just not sure. I don\u2019t think you&#8217;re ready for work. You&#8217;ve been in and out of the hospital for the last two years. Don\u2019t you think it\u2019s a bit too soon to get a job?!<\/em><\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>Marco<\/strong> <strong>(individual receiving support): <\/strong>Mom, I&#8217;ve learned a lot about myself in the last couple of years, including what kind of work makes me feel good and fulfilled. I want to work. I&#8217;m sick of being just a patient. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>Dr. Hidalgo <\/strong><\/em><strong><em>(provider):&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong><em>Marco, you seem eager to return to work, and Lupe, you seem nervous that Marco won\u2019t be successful in his transition back to work. You both agree on finding a next step that is achievable and supportive of you, Marco, and your goals. You know, individuals I&#8217;ve worked with who share your experience, Marco, often find work to be a wonderful way to leave the &#8216;patient role&#8217; behind and take on a more valued and meaningful role. <\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>Lupe: <\/em><\/strong><em>I\u2019m just worried working will make you feel worse, Marco, which would be like another step backward for you and our family.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>Marco<\/strong>: I get it, Mom, but these are my decisions, and I won&#8217;t know until I try.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>Dr. Hidalgo: <\/em><\/strong><em>Marco, you and your mom both want to trust this next step. 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