{"id":279,"date":"2023-03-30T13:50:33","date_gmt":"2023-03-30T17:50:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/?post_type=bulb-learning-module&#038;p=279"},"modified":"2024-03-12T10:42:19","modified_gmt":"2024-03-12T14:42:19","slug":"sharing-yourself","status":"publish","type":"bulb-learning-module","link":"https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/lessons\/meaningfully-sharing-self-collaborating-to-partner\/sharing-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"Sharing Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n<p>Self-disclosure in partnerships creates a sense of closeness and trust and adds credibility to the support you offer (Lussier &amp; Richard, 2007). <strong>We share ourselves because it strengthens partnerships with families.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-audio\"><audio controls=\"controls\" src=\"\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/03\/167-Bridge-St-23.m4a\"><\/audio><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/02\/pexels-matthias-zomer-339620-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"behavioral health provider reaching for the hand of a family member in support\" class=\"wp-image-75\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/02\/pexels-matthias-zomer-339620-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/02\/pexels-matthias-zomer-339620-636x358.jpg 636w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/02\/pexels-matthias-zomer-339620-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/02\/pexels-matthias-zomer-339620-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/02\/pexels-matthias-zomer-339620-2048x1152.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/02\/pexels-matthias-zomer-339620-1200x675.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/02\/pexels-matthias-zomer-339620-992x558.jpg 992w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/02\/pexels-matthias-zomer-339620-1500x844.jpg 1500w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/02\/pexels-matthias-zomer-339620-1920x1080.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/02\/pexels-matthias-zomer-339620-1984x1116.jpg 1984w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2><strong><span class=\"has-inline-color has-very-dark-gray-color\">On Sharing Yourself<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>The benefits of intentionally sharing yourself with families extend beyond the trusting connection you are building (Lussier &amp; Richard, 2007). <strong>Sharing yourself invites:<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n<li><strong>Healing: <\/strong>alleviating pain and shame by acknowledging circumstances, impact, and outcomes,<\/li>\r\n<li><strong>More sharing: <\/strong>offering more information they might have,<\/li>\r\n<li><strong>Validation<\/strong>: feeling acknowledged and understood, and<\/li>\r\n<li><strong>Continued partnering: <\/strong>increased motivation to utilize behavioral health support.<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2><span class=\"has-inline-color has-very-dark-gray-color\"><strong>What You Share, <\/strong>When You Share<\/span><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Sharing yourself is a cornerstone in any partnership. You are being honest and vulnerable by offering your observations, impressions\/opinions, feelings, and\/or lived experience. Here are some &#8220;I statement&#8221; starters for sharing your:<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n<li><strong>Observations<\/strong>: <em>&#8220;I notice&#8230;&#8221; &#8220;I observe&#8230;&#8221;<\/em>\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><em>&#8220;I notice when I ask about your work, you change the subject.&#8221;\u00a0<\/em><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ol start=\"2\">\r\n<li><strong>Impressions\/opinions<\/strong>: <em>&#8220;I get the impression&#8230;&#8221; &#8220;I&#8217;m sensing&#8230;&#8221;<\/em>\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><em>&#8220;I&#8217;m sensing you don&#8217;t want to talk to me about work.&#8221;\u00a0<\/em><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ol start=\"3\">\r\n<li><strong>Lived experience<\/strong>: <em>&#8220;I share your experience of&#8230;&#8221;<\/em>\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><em>&#8220;I have also been unsure about talking to others about my work.&#8221;<\/em><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ol start=\"4\">\r\n<li><strong>Feelings<\/strong>: <em>&#8220;I&#8217;m starting to feel&#8230;&#8221;<\/em> <em>&#8220;I continue to feel&#8230;&#8221;<\/em>\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><em>&#8220;I feel it&#8217;s important to understand this from your perspective. Do you feel comfortable telling me more?&#8221;\u00a0<\/em><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2><span class=\"has-inline-color has-very-dark-gray-color\"><strong>How You Share <\/strong>What You Share<\/span><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Deciding what parts of yourself to share with individuals and their families, remember what you share should be:<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n<li><strong>Timely<\/strong>: you have an invitation or permission to share\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><em>&#8220;Would it be ok if I shared something with you?&#8221; <\/em><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ol start=\"2\">\r\n<li><strong>Succinct<\/strong>: you keep the focus on the individual and family\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><em>&#8220;Your time is precious, so I&#8217;ll briefly share&#8230;&#8221; <\/em><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ol start=\"3\">\r\n<li><strong>Relevant<\/strong>: you perceive their curiosity about your experiences, thoughts, and\/or observations\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><em>&#8220;I can share a little bit about something similar I faced.&#8221; <\/em><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2><span class=\"has-inline-color has-very-dark-gray-color\"><strong>The &#8220;Sharing Sandwich&#8221;<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>The &#8220;<strong>Sharing Sandwich&#8221;<\/strong> is a visual reminder to embed your self-disclosure between two layers of information (<span>Farkas, et. al. 2016)<\/span> focused on the individual and their family&#8217;s experiences and goals.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\r\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-medium is-resized\"><img src=\"\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/03\/pixzolo-photography-ZB8NK8cB4EE-unsplash-636x387.jpg\" alt=\"grilled cheese sandwich representing layers of the &quot;Sharing Sandwich&quot; technique\" class=\"wp-image-2667\" width=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/03\/pixzolo-photography-ZB8NK8cB4EE-unsplash-636x387.jpg 636w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/03\/pixzolo-photography-ZB8NK8cB4EE-unsplash-1024x623.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/03\/pixzolo-photography-ZB8NK8cB4EE-unsplash-768x467.jpg 768w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/03\/pixzolo-photography-ZB8NK8cB4EE-unsplash-1536x935.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/sites.bu.edu\/familypartnership\/files\/2023\/03\/pixzolo-photography-ZB8NK8cB4EE-unsplash-2048x1246.jpg 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 636px) 100vw, 636px\" \/><\/figure>\r\n<\/div>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\">\r\n<div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container\">\r\n<p>The three components of the &#8220;Sharing Sandwich&#8221; are:<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\">\r\n<div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container\">\r\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\">\r\n<div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container\">\r\n<ol>\r\n<li>Focus on Individual and Family +<\/li>\r\n<li>Self-Disclosure +<\/li>\r\n<li>Focus on Individual and Family<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<div class=\"wp-block-group\">\r\n<div class=\"wp-block-group__inner-container\">\r\n<p><strong>Example 1: &#8220;Sharing Your Opinion Sandwich&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>Scenario:<\/strong> An individual with whom you are working, Maya, and her family are in disagreement about her readiness to return to college. They ask for your opinion.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>Focus on Individual and Family:<\/strong> <em>&#8220;Maya, <em>you&#8217;ve shared that you value being a student, and you feel returning to school will support your overall wellness.<\/em> Your family, on the other hand, feels unsure about your readiness to return.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>Self-Disclosure:<\/strong> <em>&#8220;I remember my family feeling nervous about my return to college after a difficult freshman year. Honestly, I felt a little nervous too.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong><strong>Focus on Individual and<\/strong><\/strong> <strong>Family:<\/strong> <em>&#8220;As a starting point, perhaps we could collectively define &#8216;readiness&#8217; and identify markers of &#8216;readiness&#8217; for a return to college.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>Example 2: &#8220;Sharing Your Experience Sandwich&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>Scenario:<\/strong> Tr\u00e9, an individual with whom you are working, and their family express concern that they aren&#8217;t getting the attention and support they want and deserve.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong><strong>Focus on Individual and<\/strong><\/strong> <strong>Family:<\/strong> <em>&#8220;Tr\u00e9, your health is the priority in this partnership, and you&#8217;re disappointed with the support you&#8217;re getting here.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong>Self-Disclosure:<\/strong> <em>&#8220;I&#8217;m remembering times when my expectations for behavioral health support weren&#8217;t met, and I felt mistreated and frustrated.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><strong><strong>Focus on Individual and<\/strong><\/strong> <strong>Family:<\/strong> <em>&#8220;Can you tell me more about what you&#8217;d like to be going differently in this partnership?&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2><span class=\"has-inline-color has-very-dark-gray-color\"><strong>Practice Pause: Sharing Your Observations <\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n<div id=\"bulb_question_e0f00d391fbb4665a5cdb83de4f5ec83\" class=\"bulb-question\" style=\"background-color:left;color:left;font-size:leftpx;\"><\/div>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2><strong><span class=\"has-inline-color has-very-dark-gray-color\">On Sharing Space<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>Sharing yourself also involves sharing the spaces you occupy with individuals and families. <strong>We recommend creating environments that promote partnership\u00a0by facilitating open\u00a0communication, inclusion, and transparency by:<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n<li><strong>Authentically sharing spaces<\/strong>: designating spaces that all people are able and welcome to access and occupy\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><em>e.g., cafeteria\/kitchen, restrooms, etc. <\/em><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ol start=\"2\">\r\n<li><strong>Removing unnecessary materials that signal power<\/strong>: creating a neutral, comfortable, and welcoming workspace\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><em>e.g., clipboard, medical tools, posted degrees, etc.<\/em><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ol start=\"3\">\r\n<li><strong>Eliminating desks\/furniture that create physical barriers between you and others<\/strong>: maintaining a workspace that fosters open connection and communication\r\n<ul>\r\n<li><em>e.g., desks positioned between you and others, 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